It's time for my view on the Alpha Male Character in Books. There are so many memorable characters and especially couples that I love being a reader just as much as I love writing about these characters and couples.
Christian Grey - there I said his name and he'll be one of the most famous male leads in a Book along with Edward Cullen, Mr Darcy, Eric Northman and a few others.
I found it really hard to like EL James Fifty Shades of Grey when I first started reading it. I don't read erotica or erotic novels regularly, I love sensual romance and always have. I believe it could have been the hype with the book from women and I just couldn't get into it.
After a wonderful chat with my Beauty Therapist Judy, who is also an avid romance reader, she insisted I try again. She described Christian as an Alpha Male, a dominant, in control man which is a rare find in the real world. She said the romance was hot but there was an intense emotional relationship between Ana and Christian. So with much excitement, I decided to give it another go.
So with a clear head and an open mind, I headed to Dymocks and bought all three under the recommendation of Judy.
And let me tell you, I really enjoyed the books. She was right. The first book was a bit full on and BDSM is not something I would normally enjoy reading but this book hit the mark as it did with many other readers. I understand that not all readers enjoyed this book or the trilogy. I however after my second try loved it.
Alpha Male Leads are devine. They reach out to women in a way that in the real world you may rarely see in men. I know because I work with 5 Executives, all male.
I'm not a feminist but I believe in equality with men and women intellectually, however I also love dominant, in control, decision making men who know exactly how they want it and how to get it without all the fluffing around and pussyfooting.
Sadly, I believe women have brought up a generation of boys who have grown into men that are not as strong and in control as most women now seem to desire (if Fifty Shades is any indication). I've also heard so much on the radio over discussions that women have left their men because they've read Fifty Shades. If you have, it's your choice but when you boss your man around and put him under your thumb and he lets you - it's not just his fault.
I recently came across a male acquatance whom I hadn't seen for a few years. It was good to catch up. He's softly spoken, respectable and shared that he recently was engaged. I was truly and sincerely happy for him. He spoke about his fiance and how they were going to get married in her Church (which in our culture is quite unusual as it is more common for the woman to marry in the man's Church), and I suddenly realized he loves her but she has the upper hand in that he follows her around. By the way, when I met her, she gave me the filthiest look. And I can quite honestly say - I don't want your man lady, you can have him! A superior example of a man who is happy to follow the womans lead.
Ladies everyone needs to decide what they want out of a relationship. No one is perfect, we take the good with the bad.
I'm still in search of my strong, independent, slightly posssesive, control freak of a man who loves life passionately, has ambition to be the best he can be, will argue but still be respectful in this life; who can love unconditionally and give me an open feeling of being safe, protected and loved passionately.
I'm waiting for my Christian Grey, Edward Cullen and Mr Darcy combined to show up and I'm happy to keep my high standard just the way it is.
This is ONLY my view and you are completely entitled to disagree with me. I have a right to my opinion just as everyone else does. I write based on my own experiences in this life.
Five Senses of Romance is out and available for 0.99 it's a short Guide on the ettiquette of romance for both men and women, single and taken. It's short, to the point and will make you think. It's not bulked up with heaps of chapters, just a commentry on the Five Senses and how to apply them in relationships romantically.
Of course my very own ideal man could be Christophe Augustine from Mad About the Boy - adorable, protective, ambitious and seriously passionate. I toned this book down from an almost erotic heat level to highly sensual. If you haven't read Julia and Christophe's story check it out on Ebook for $4.99 ot Paperback for $11.50.
And if I were a teenager - Rafael from my book BaSatai: Outside In would be my ideal boyfriend.
Signing off Peeps :)
Be kind and thoughtful to one another.
Feel free to join me on this blog and would love to hear comments.
Where to find my books for purchase Ebook and Paperbacks
BaSatai: Outside In
Mad About the Boy by Suzan Battah
Five Senses of Romance A Self Help Guide for Gentlemen and Ladies, Both Single and Taken [Kindle Edition]